I am a 32 year old female & a lifelong New Yorker (born in Manhattan, lived in the Bronx til age 2, grew up & still live in Westchester County, NY).  I've pretty much known that I was queer since I was still in grade school and officially came out @ age 18/19.

When I first came out, I wasn't shocked that support from the heterosexual world would be very little.  I've gotten comments ranging from people believing  that I had man issues or "haven't met the right guy" to the occasional  "I'm going to hell" remark from a random religious zealot.  However, I did not imagine the lack of support I'd receive from the mainstream gay/lesbian community.

Living right near NYC, it was quite easy to find LGBT groups and sources.  However, feeling welcome there was a different story. Like many other queer women who date men, I've run into quite a bit of biphobia, especially in lesbian social circles.  One friend suggested that I should just identify as lesbian, but I never took her advice because I believed in being honest to myself and others.

By the time I was 23, I became tired of fighting both straight & gay people over my identity and began to wonder if maybe they were right.  Shortly there after that, I went back in the closet (which in retrospect, made me very bitter).  I occasionally involved myself with LGBT events during my time in the closet, but spent the majority of my 20s living as a straight woman (though it never felt right).

Last year, I came out of the closet again.  Many incidents led up to that moment, but it wasn't until I read an article about Lisa Diamond's research on sexual fluidity that I finally began to feel peace about who I was (and to think I just picked up the magazine b/c Michelle Obama was on the cover).  As I reintegrated into the LGBT community, I was amazed by the number of bi/queer people I've met who I could relate to in addition to those who identified as gay or lesbian in public, but weren't closed to the idea of dating/loving the opposite gender.  I was also saddened by the number of bisexual people who were beginning to discard the label because of the negative stigmas attached to it (even a good pal of mine who inspired me to come out again was considering it).   At that moment, I knew something had to be done to destigmatise bisexuality cos I'd be damned if anyone should have to experience what I went through!

One night last month, I decided to search for social networking & personals websites for bisexual/queer people…Came up with a plethora of links that were "adult related' & nothing close to what I was looking for…So that is how Raspberry Mousse was born.  The official launch of the site was on 1.Mar.2010.

I intend to create a fun, supportive, informative & awesome space for bisexual, transgender, intersex & queer people, where our stories & experiences are shared.  A place that promotes visbility & shatters the stereotypes and phobias that plauge us.

I look foward to this awesome journey!

~K.